No long post here, just an invitation to consider choices, journeys and the self in relationship.
Relationships can last a good while and be a good thing without anyone needing to promise for them to be a forever thing
We can make commitments to staying connected to someone whilst being open to the possibility of changing needs and feelings
It is important that our actions are always honest, authentic, respectful and kind
Love and care can exist without enmeshing the practical aspects of our lives
We can care and support one another, be there for each other and still feel fully free
It is important check in and know where you are at and what your needs and feelings are on an ongoing basis
We can express fears and concerns and take responsibility for tending the self
We can love fully and deeply without losing sight of the self
Attachment hurts, love loves – a quote from the new book that I’m currently writing. New Chapters: the second collection of Eloise and Smith stories, by Anita Cassidy will be out in 2026. You can buy Bulletproof: an Eloise and Smith story here on Amazon or as a pdf here
These are some of my thoughts. Any journey off the ‘beaten path’ requires collaboration, creativity and community as well as care and intention so here are some quotes / links to writers and resources that continue to shape and influence my work and choices.
I wouldn’t be here without this, the Relationship Anarchy manifesto, a terrible name for a truly magical set of thinking about all relationships. My touchstone.
Please be jealous – on letting go of the shame around difficult feelings
All of Page at Poly.Land’s stuff tbh
https://minkaguides.com/solo-polyamory/
On ‘stepping off the escalator’
Great advice on boundary setting in more casual relationships
If you only buy one book about relationships buy this: Rewriting the Rules by M J Barker
If you buy two also get this one: More Than Two
If you want to read a book with my story in it, buy this, Love and Choice by Lucy Fry
